How to Overcome Imposter Syndrome
Let’s talk about imposter syndrome.
Imposter syndrome is the discouraging (and often incorrect) feeling that you do not belong, are not qualified and/or are not good enough to be in the role that you are in. Imposter syndrome often shows up often when you are:
Trying something new
Stepping into unfamiliar territory or;
When you are in the process of learning something you have never done before.
In the process of trying, this discouraging feeling can show up to not only talk yourself out of what you are trying to do, but it can convincingly persuade you to stop trying altogether using fear, anxiousness, self-criticism and negative self-talk.
Imposter syndrome fails to remember this very important fact: practice creates experience. Experience then grows into mastery. Imposter syndrome makes it (really, really) hard to remember that to try something new or different, you must embrace imperfection and courage.
If your imposter syndrome is getting in the way of you taking the next step, here are 5 ways you can start overcoming it:
Try to calm nervous feelings with something that gives you ease and releases stress.
When overcoming imposter syndrome, it’s vital to notice how you are feeling. Instead of avoiding or minimizing your feelings, check in on them to see what you need. Engage in a self-soothing practice that decreases the intensity of the feeling and helps you feel calm, balanced and emotionally safe. Stretch, rest, dance, listen to your favorite songs, wrap up in something that feels cozy — do what feels right for you.
Revisit your purpose — why did you decide to start this journey?
Find receipts and evidence that prove why this is exactly what you were meant to do. Revisiting your “why” is a powerful way to reframe imposter syndrome. Start talking yourself into taking your next steps by remembering why you started in the first place.
Are you trying to better yourself? Are you learning an important skill? Are you investing in your future? Remind yourself why you are beginning something new to remember why taking this first step is necessary to move forward.
Recognize the progress you’ve already made.
Imposter syndrome often forgets that baby steps still move forward. What progress have you already made towards this new venture? Reflect on the steps you have already taken to inspire yourself to take the next one.
Set realistic and simple intentions for yourself.
Now think about what you need to take the next step in your journey. Take a moment to draw out what taking your next step would look like. Re-adjust your expectations for yourself if need be. Set yourself up for success by simplifying your intentions.
Offer yourself compassion during (and throughout) this process.
Now is the time to shower yourself with kindness, understanding, patience and care you deserve. Replace criticism with curiosity and self-cruelty with self-kindness. Cheer yourself on and reward yourself as your take next steps. It’s possible to be successful AND be kind to yourself.
What helps you overcome imposter syndrome?
